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Tuesday, June 26, 2012

How To Live a Better Life with Life Coaching By Priya Deelchand


How To Live a Better Life with Life Coaching
By Priya Deelchand

We all dream of a better life, a happier tomorrow, a brighter future. Today we live in a world which is in a chaotic state. Everyday in the news, we hear only of calamities and bad news which are happening all around our planet. Hearing such things now appears normal to us but in reality, it is not!

Even our lives are confused. We are no longer living, we are simply existing. That’s not the way life should be and we human beings are not meant to live such lives. We deserve better, happier and more fulfilling lives. This is our birthright and this is what we are here for. For most of us, this seems impossible. We are so used to live our lives by default that living a life that we truly want seems too good to be true. Yet, this is possible through appropriate life coaching and right application of proper techniques such as the Law of Attraction, Emotional Freedom Techniques, etc. We all deserve and are meant to live our best possible life. We can and we must all become directors of our lives instead of being mere spectators.

In all parts of the world, people have become very well off on the material level. We can afford most of the things that we want but we no longer know how to live and how to enjoy simple pleasures of life. Our educational system has provided us with all appropriate knowledge, academic qualifications and skills that enable us to earn a living but they do not provide us with the most important thing of all: "How to live a life". That's where life coaching becomes very important today. It shows us how to become masters of our lives and provides us with all the appropriate guidance and tools to make our lives a masterpiece.

Life coaching is for any of us who wants to get back on track in any area of life, be it career, relationship issues, financial matters or well-being. We all have problems and we all want to eliminate these problems and live happier and more fulfilled lives. The Law of Attraction coaching is one of the best tools which will allow us to get from where we are to where we want to be. This law states that we attract into our lives, whatever we give our energy, attention and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted. However, it is not a magic formula. We need to have a real determination to change and a very strong will power.

Wonderful outcomes are normally achieved most of the time with life coaching and many people experience life changing results. Whether they are finding it difficult to attract the right partner, the right career, more abundance and prosperity, more peace of mind, more success or want to achieve the right balance between personal and professional life, life coaching has all the tools at hand to help anyone achieve their goal.

Some of us find it very difficult to manifest the things that we want because of our limiting beliefs which are most of the time self-imposed or imposed on us by our family, our friends, the environment we live in, etc and these limiting beliefs are stuck in our subconscious minds. A very effective technique to get rid of our limiting beliefs is the Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT. The aim of this technique is to detect our limiting beliefs and fears and then help us eliminate them and replace them by more positive ones. Once the blocks are eliminated, we can start attracting the things that we really want and live our life by design.

We all want to live in a better and happier world and we all dream of a better future for ourselves and our children. It is high time for all of us to really take charge of our lives and live the best possible life we are designed to. In this way, we will be able to positively impact on our family, our environment and on the world at large. The change must begin with each one of us and the right time to change is NOW. As Mahatma Gandhi was right when he said "Be the change you want to see in the world."

Author's Bio:
Priya Deelchand is a Corporate Trainer, Life and Business Coach and Founder of Success Strategies Consultants Ltd. She conducts several workshops on motivation, emotional intelligence, success principles, management and leadership skills. She also coaches and helps people worldwide in both English and French using Law of Attraction, EFT and other powerful techniques. Please visit us at http://successstrategiesconsultants.com or call us on +230 7580695.

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Monday, June 25, 2012

It's so nice to feel good when you do the right thing!


An Indian, visiting his white neighbors,
asked for a little tobacco to smoke, and
one of them, having some loose in his pocket,
gave him a handful.

The day following, the Indian came back,
inquiring for the donor, saying he had found
a quarter of a dollar among the tobacco.

Being told, that as it was given him, he
might as well keep it, he answered, pointing
to his breast,

"I got a good man and a bad man here, and
the good man say, "That it is not mine, I must
return it to the owner";

The bad man say, "Why, he gave it you, and
it is your own now".

The good man say, "That not right, the tobacco
is yours, not the money";

the bad man say, "Never mind, you got it, go
buy some rhum".

The good man say, "No, no, you must not do so".

So I don't know what to do; and I think to go
to sleep: but the good man and the bad kept
talking all night, and trouble me;

and now I bring the money back I feel good."

From "Anecdotes for the young", Daniel Smith, 1850

It's so nice to feel good when you do the right
thing!

Posted by Priya Deelchand

You are unique


Did you know that scientist still haven't been
able to figure out the number of possible combinations
of DNA molecules? The best they've been able to do
is provide an estimate: 2.4 billion to the power of 10!

That's an incredible number when you consider that
the possible combinations of all particles in the
universe amount to only 76 to the power of 10!

As you can see, that is vastly less than the possible
combinations DNA, which form your identity.

So scientifically speaking, you are unique! There's no
chance of ever finding another person exactly like you
on the planet.

And you can also be sure that there never has been
- and never will be - two identical human beings in the
entire universe.

So why waste time and energy trying to fit into a mould?
To be like someone else? You are unique, and thus radically
different, no matter what you think and no matter what you do.

Author unknown
Posted by Priya Deelchand

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Story of the teacup



A couple vacationing in Europe went strolling down a little street and saw a quaint little gift shop with a beautiful teacup in the window. The lady collected teacups and she wanted this one for her collection, so she went inside to buy the teacup, and as the story goes the teacup spoke and said:

"I want you to know that I have not always looked like this. It took the process of pain to bring me to this point. You see, there was a time when I was just clay and the Master came and he pounded me and he squeezed me and he kneaded me and I screamed: "STOP THAT!". But he just smiled and said, "Not yet".

Then he took me and put me on the shelf and I went round and round and round and round... and while I was spinning and getting dizzier and dizzier I screamed again and I said, "Please get me off this thing... please get me off!!!" And the Master was looking at me and he was smiling, as he said, "Not yet".

Then he took me and walked toward the oven and shut the door and turned up the heat and I could see him through the window of the oven and it was getting hotter and hotter and I thought, "He's going to burn me to death!".

And I started pounding on the inside of the oven and I said, "Master, let me out, let me out, let me out!", and I could see that he was smiling as he said "Not yet". Then he opened the door and I was fresh and free and he took me out of the oven and he put me on the table and then he got some paint and a paintbrush.

He started dabbing me and making swirls all over me and I started to gag and I said: "Master, stop it... stop it... stop it please... you're making me gag". He just smiled as he said "not yet".

Then very gently he picked me up again and he started walking toward the oven and I said, "Master, NO!! Not again, pleeeease!!". He opened the oven door and he slipped me inside and he shut the door and this time he turned the heat up twice as hot as before and I thought, "He's going to kill me!!", and I looked through the window of the oven and I started to pound on it, saying, "Master... Master, please let me out... please let me out... let me out!".

I could see that he was smiling but I also noticed a tear trickle down his cheek as I watched him mouth the words, "Not yet!"

Just as I thought I was about to die, the door opened and he reached in ever so gently and took me out, fresh and free and he went and placed me on a high shelf and he said: "There, I have created what I intended. Would you like to see your yourself?" I said, "Yes". He handed me a mirror and I looked and I looked again and I said, "That's not me, I'm just a lump of clay".

He said, "Yes, that IS you, but it took the process of pain to bring you to this place. You see, had I not worked you when you were clay, then you would have dried up.

If I had not subjected you to the stress of the wheel you would have crumbled. If I had not put you into the heat of the oven you would have cracked. If I had not painted you there would be no color in your life. But, it was the second oven that gave you the strength to endure. Now you are everything I intended you to be - from the beginning." And I, the teacup, heard myself saying something I never thought I would hear myself saying, "Master, forgive me, I did not trust you. I thought you were going to harm me, I did not know you had a glorious future and a hope for me. I was too shortsighted, but I want to thank you.

I want to thank you for the suffering. I want to thank you for the process of pain. Here I am! I give you myself - fill me; pour from me, use me as you see fit. I really want to be a vessel that brings you glory within my life."

Author unknown
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Wednesday, June 20, 2012

The Power of Positive Talk


by Dr Abdul Kalam


I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did. fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal . You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the
words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.


Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay, try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.

The point is made

If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are
really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar.


If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here.Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite."

People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.

These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, " I'm fat. Nobody will like me. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke, etc. etc."

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.


Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.


Notice when you or other people use them.


Ø But: Negates any words that are stated before it.


Ø Try: Presupposes failure.


Ø If: Presupposes that you may not.


Ø Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener..


Ø Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen.


Ø Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.)


Ø Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.


Ø Can't/Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.


Examples:


Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!"


Likely result: Drops the ball


Better language: "Catch the ball!"


Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television."


Likely result: Watches more television.


Better language: "I read that too much television makes people stupid." You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!


Exercise:



Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change
them.



These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Posted by Priya Deelchand

Overcome Your Obstacles and Grow Stronger


Here is the story of a butterfly that I would like to share with you today. The author of this story is unknown.

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared; he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.

Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly. To get through the tiny opening were nature's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings, so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If nature allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly...

Posted by Priya Deelchand

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Success With Emotional Intelligence By Priya Deelchand


Success With Emotional Intelligence
By Priya Deelchand 

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage your own emotions and the emotions of other people in positive ways. Today we can clearly see that being only "book smart" and having a high intelligence quotient or IQ does not guarantee a successful, happy and fulfilled life. There are many people in all parts of the world who are very brilliant academically but are inept at dealing with people and successful at work or in their personal relationships. Academic intelligence is not enough on its own to be successful in life. IQ can help you get a job and earn a living, but it does not show you how to live a life. When it comes to happiness and success in life, emotional intelligence helps you build stronger relationships, succeed at work, and achieve your career and personal goals. 

Emotionally intelligent people are able to recognize their own emotional state and the emotional states of others and as a result they connect more easily with people. They therefore communicate better, form stronger relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling life. John Gottman was right when he said "In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships." 

Emotional Intelligence consists of five basic components namely self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills. The first three competencies are intra-personal and concern your ability to know and manage yourself. Empathy and social skills are inter-personal competencies and concern your ability to interact and get along with others. The better your intra-personal skills, the easier it becomes to express your inter-personal skills. Mastering these skills will allow you to live a better, happier and more successful and fulfilled life.

Self-awareness is the first component of emotional intelligence. It is the ability to know which emotions you are feeling and why. When you understand your emotions, it is easier for you to acknowledge and control your emotions and prevent your feelings from ruling you. You also become more confident as you do not let your emotions get out of control. Being self-aware also enables you to take an honest look at yourself and better know your strengths and weaknesses, and work on these areas to achieve better outcomes for yourself and others. 

Self-Regulation is the ability to control your emotions and impulses and choose the emotions that you want to experience instead of being the victim of whatever emotions arise. When you are able to manage your emotional state, it becomes easier for you to think before you act and this prevents you from making impulsive and careless decisions. This skill also allows you to transform negative exhausting emotions into more positive and productive ones 

The third component of emotional intelligence is motivation. This is about using your emotions to remain positive, optimistic and persistent rather than negative and pessimistic. When you have a high degree of emotional intelligence you tend to be very motivated, productive and efficient in everything they do. You also use your emotions positively to take the right actions to persist and achieve your goals even in the face of considerable adversity or difficulty. 

Empathy is the fourth element of emotional intelligence. It is the ability to truly recognize and understand the feelings and point of view of people around you. Empathetic people usually possess the ability to listen effectively and accurately to others and are normally excellent at managing relationships, improving communication, building trust and relating to others.

The fifth component of emotional intelligence is social skills. Emotionally intelligent people have good social skills and are excellent at building and maintaining relationships. When you are highly emotionally intelligent, you no longer focus on your own success first and you always have other's best interests in mind. You always promote an environment where people cooperate with each other instead of compete with one another and you always help others develop and grow.

Today emotional intelligence is a key to success in life and the good news is that whatever your actual level of emotional intelligence, you can improve it The best way to develop your emotional skills is through practice. You can then become more efficient at recognizing and managing your emotions as well as the emotions of others and lead a happier, more successful and fulfilled life. Always remember the wise words of Daniel Goleman who said, "What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ - not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests."

Priya Deelchand is a Corporate Trainer, Life and Business Coach and Founder of Success Strategies Consultants Ltd. She conducts several workshops on motivation, emotional intelligence, success principles, management and leadership skills. She also coaches and helps people worldwide in both English and French using Law of Attraction, EFT and other powerful techniques. Please visit us at http://successstrategiesconsultants.com or call us on +230 7580695.

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Thursday, June 14, 2012

Attracting Prosperity with Positive Affirmations by Priya Deelchand


We live in an abundant universe and we all deserve our share of that abundance. In order to receive that abundance, we must be prepared and ready to receive and accept the prosperity which is rightfully ours. However, at a subconscious level, many of us just do not believe that we deserve the prosperity that we are looking for. In order to attractprosperity, we must release all our negative beliefs about prosperity. Our external reality mirrors our internal beliefs and how we think the world is for us becomes our reality. By changing our inner thinking about prosperity, we can change our external reality and live a more abundant life. Albert Einstein was right when he once said “The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”

We can live a more prosperous life by programming our mind with positive affirmations. We cannot attract prosperity by thinking and talking about our lack of money. If we focus on what we lack, we simply attract more of the same. However, if we focus our thoughts and attention on prosperity, we will definitely attract more of it,

Affirmations are statements that we think or say to ourselves or others and they are based on our beliefs. These affirmations can be either positive or negative and have the ability to greatly influence our life and create our reality. In fact, affirmation is something that we are doing all the time. Every thought we think and every word we say is an affirmation. All of our inner dialogues are affirmations. We are continually affirming subconsciously with our words and thoughts and this flow of affirmations is creating our life experience in every moment. .As Robert Collier said “One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself sufficiently often, whether the statement be true or false. It comes to be dominating thought in one's mind.”

Positive affirmations will be very useful to help us attract more prosperity into our lives and through the regular use of this powerful technique we will begin to see wonderful changes in our life we never imagined possible. With positive affirmations, we can overcome our limiting beliefs and negative thoughts and make prosperity a reality for us. Ralph Marston once said, "There is a thought in your mind right now. The longer you hold on to it, the more you dwell upon it, the more life you give to that thought. Give it enough life, and it will become real. So make sure the thought is indeed a great one."

In order to become more prosperous, it is very important to develop a conscious and focused affirmation process. We must become aware of exactly what we are affirming through our thoughts and consciously and purposefully focus those affirmations on positive and empowering statements. These positive affirmations will reprogram our subconscious mind and allow us to become more and more prosperous. By developing the habit of using positive affirmations regularly and consistently our subconscious will adapt to the new information it is being provided with. For affirmations to be effective, it is important that we create our own affirmations based on our specific conditions and circumstances. It is very important to remember that our affirmations are only going to be efficient if we can feel what we are affirming. It is the emotions that our affirmations create that will attract the prosperity that we desire to us. The most effective positive affirmations are phrases that are in alignment with us, empower us and allow us to feel a shift in our emotions as we repeat them.

In order to become more prosperous, we can repeat the following affirmations regularly.
1 I am open and ready to live a more prosperous life now.
2 I accept abundance in my life now.
3 I receive large inflows of money both from expected and unexpected sources now.
4 My income is constantly increasing.
5 I am a money magnet, and prosperity of all kind is drawn to me.
6 I allow myself to prosper now.
7 I open myself to receive the abundance of the universe now.
8 I live in an abundant universe and I am grateful.
9 Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.
10 I prosper in everything I do now.


We can all become as prosperous as we want by using positive affirmations regularly and consistently. Remember that abundance is a state of mind and if we want to be more prosperous in life, we must think of ourselves as being already prosperous. We should all follow the advice of Scott Reed who said “As long as you know what it is you desire, then by simply affirming that it is yours - firmly and positively, with no ifs, buts, or maybes - over and over again, from the minute you arise in the morning until the time you go to sleep at night, and as many times during the day as your work or activities permit, you will be drawn to those people, places, and events that will bring your desires to you.”

Author's Bio: 
Priya Deelchand is a Life and Business Coach and Founder of Success Strategies Consultants Ltd. She coaches and helps people worldwide in both English and French using Law of Attraction, EFT and other powerful techniques. If you want to live a happier and more fulfilled life, please visit us at http://successstrategiesconsultants.com



Saturday, June 9, 2012

Priya Deelchand – Living life by design and not by default




Most of us often come across a moment in our life when we feel we have lost our direction or things we want turn to be not at all what we really wanted.
It is difficult in today hustle and bustle world to remain passionate about our life, especially when we find that we are so busy working and taking care of responsibilities that we have no time left at the end of the day for ourselves. After a while we may begin to wonder why we even bother getting up in the morning.


That is where life Success Strategies Consultants comes in: It offers life coaching, which is a powerful way to jump start our passion again and explore what it is in life that excites us. The answers are hiding inside us and a life coach can  guide us to finding those answers.


Priya Deelchand, creator and director of Success Strategies Consultants Ltd believes that we can and we must all become directors of our lives instead of being mere spectators. Why ‘Success Strategies’? “In fact, I chose the name Success Strategies because all our courses and coaching sessions are intended to make people succeed in their personal and professional lives. There is no specific definition of success as success can mean different things to different individuals. For some people success can mean having lots of money, whereas for another person, success can mean having a very happy and fulfilled life,” she replies.


You might be an executive or the owner of a successful small business looking to find balance between the demands of work and the needs of your family. Perhaps you are a musician, a writer, or an artist looking for a creative breakthrough, or a doctoral candidate looking for the perfect thesis. Maybe it is simply that you want your already great relationship to be spectacular. 


You might even be a twenty-something techno whiz entrepreneur with a brilliant idea for a product or service that will change the world forever. Life coaching is for anyone. “Life coaching is for any of us who wants to get back on track in any area of life, be it career, relationship issues, financial matters or well-being. We all have problems and we all want to eliminate these problems and live happier and more fulfilled lives. Life coaching has all the tools at hand to help anyone achieve their goal,” she articulates.


Before establishing Strategies Consultants Ltd in May 2009, Priya Deelchand worked in the financial sector for almost 10 years as Fund Manager in most of the large Asset Management companies in Mauritius. But she left the financial sector to follow her passion to empower people and help them unlock their unlimited potential. 


“In 2008, when the financial crisis started, work became very hectic and as I was always interested in personal development, I decided to do a course in personal development to better manage myself and cope with the stressful situation at work. While surfing on the Internet, I came across a coaching course in USA offered by the Law of Attraction Centre and I enrolled for the course.  It was about how to live your life by design by attracting what you wanted in different areas of your life. The course was very interesting and I started understanding myself better.”


While doing the course, Priya had to coach other people in order to become a certified coach and she had to coach a group of 20 Americans, aged between 50 and 55 years, who had lost their jobs following the financial crisis. “The financial crisis was a blessing in disguise for them. Now, with coaching, they had a chance to live their lives by design and no longer by default. Many of them started their own businesses and after coaching them for around 6 months, I saw that these people were living happier and more fulfilled lives than before,” she reminisces.


In 2009, after becoming a Certified Coach, she quit her job as Fund Manager and got into coaching. Many people categorised her as “mad” for leaving a secure and highly paid job to do something that was unknown to people in Mauritius in 2009. 


She created Success Strategies Consultants Ltd immediately after and started doing Life and Business coaching. She ran workshops for individuals who wanted to metamorphose their lives for the best. Priya shares that these people started experiencing positive and life changing results and they referred their friends and colleagues to her. 


In 2010, Success Strategies Consultants Ltd became MQA registered Training Institution and started offering tailor-made courses and coaching sessions to managers and employees of many big companies in Mauritius. 


Today, Success Strategies Consultants Ltd offers several workshops in many big companies in Mauritius on leadership, peak performance, emotional intelligence, success principles, self-esteem, changing mindset, positive mental attitude, and motivation, with the aim helping CEOs, managers, executives and employees across all industries make better decisions, improve organisational productivity and achieve personal growth and fulfilment. 


Priya also conducts one to one coaching sessions with individual clients to help them remove their emotional blocks, become more confident, unlock their potentials and achieve their goals. She believes that we are all unique and have unlimited talents but we are not aware of them. 


Through her coaching, management skills and experience, she makes a positive difference in the professional and personal lives of people. Her main objective today is to guide corporate and individual clients towards a better and more harmonious way of living by making full use of their hidden potentials. 


We shall part ways with a piece of wisdom. “I firmly believe that in life, nothing is impossible and whatever we want to do, we all can. We just have to take the appropriate actions to start living the lives of our dreams,” says Priya, oozing an unparalleled, but convincing dose of optimism.


Sunday, June 3, 2012

Choose Your Attitudes



I believe that, at least to some degree, we can each exercise control over our attitudes. And the problem is – if we don’t control our attitudes, they will surely control us.

One farmer took charge of his outlook. He did it by filling his mind with awe and gratitude. He found that doing this gave him more energy to work on problems and to tackle those things that needed his attention. His neighbor’s outlook could not have been more different.

One summer morning he exclaimed, “Look at the beautiful sky. Did you ever see such a glorious sunrise?”

She countered. “It’ll probably get so hot the crops will scorch.”

During an afternoon shower, he commented, “Isn’t this wonderful? Mother Nature is giving the corn a drink today.”

“And if it doesn’t stop before too long,” came the sour reply, “we’ll wish we’d taken out flood insurance on the crops.” And so it went.

Convinced that he could instill some awe and wonder in this hardened woman, he bought a remarkable dog. Not just any mutt, but the most expensive, highly trained and gifted dog he could find. The animal was exquisite. It could perform remarkable and impossible feats that, the farmer thought, would surely amaze even his neighbor. So he invited her to watch his dog perform.

“Fetch!” he commanded, as he tossed a stick into a lake, where it bobbed up and down in the rippling water. The dog bounded after the stick, walked ON the water, and retrieved it.

“What do you think of that?” he smirked.

“Hmmm,” she frowned. “Can’t swim, can he?”

Not to sound too Pollyanna, but I agree with newscaster Paul Harvey when he said that he has never seen a monument erected for a pessimist. A stubbornly positive attitude can often make the difference between happiness and misery, between health and illness and even between life and death.

Viktor Frankl would have agreed. Dr. Frankl chronicled his experiences as a Holocaust and concentration camp survivor in his book Man's Search for Meaning. In it he asserts something really quite remarkable. He says that everything can be taken from a person except one thing. What can never be taken away is the power to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.

We can decide to choose our attitudes every day. That may be one of the most important decisions we will make. I don’t want to neglect making that choice.

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Posted by Priya Deelchand

17 Rules For A Better Way To Live by Og Mandino


Rule One... for a Better Way to Live:

Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you... with grace, strength, courage, and confidence.

Rule Two... for a Better Way to Live:

Today, and every day, deliver more than you are getting paid to do. The victory of success will be half won when you learn the secret of putting out more than is expected in all that you do. Make yourself so valuable in your work that eventually you will become indispensable. Exercise your privilege to go the extra mile, and enjoy all the rewards you receive. You deserve them!

Rule Three... for a Better Way to Live:

Whenever you make a mistake or get knocked down by life, don't look back at it too long. Mistakes are life's way of teaching you. Your capacity for occasional blunders is inseparable from your capacity to reach your goals. No one wins them all, and your failures, when they happen, are just part of your growth. Shake off your blunders. How will you know your limits without an occasional failure? Never quit. Your turn will come.

Rule Four... for a Better Way to Live:

Always reward your long hours of labor and toil in the very best way, surrounded by your family. Nurture their love carefully, remembering that your children need models, not critics, and your own progress will hasten when you constantly strive to present your best side to your children. And even if you have failed at all else in the eyes of the world, if you have a loving family, you are a success.

Rule Five... for a Better Way to Live:

Build this day on a foundation of pleasant thoughts. Never fret at any imperfections that you fear may impede your progress. Remind yourself, as often as necessary, that you are a creature of God and have the power to achieve any dream by lifting up your thoughts. You can fly when you decide that you can. Never consider yourself defeat again. Let the vision in your heart be in your life's blueprint. Smile!

Rule Six... for a Better Way to Live:

Let your actions always speak for you, but be forever on guard against the terrible traps of false pride and conceit that can halt your progress. The next time you are tempted to boast, just place your fist in a full pail of water, and when you remove it, the hole remaining will give you a correct measure of your importance.

Rule Seven... for a Better Way to Live:

Each day is a special gift from God, and while life may not always be fair, you must never allow the pains, hurdles, and handicaps of the moment to poison your attitude and plans for yourself and your future. You can never win when you wear the ugly cloak of self-pity, and the sour sound of whining will certainly frighten away any opportunity for success. Never again. There is a better way.

Rule Eight... for a Better Way to Live:

Never again clutter your days or nights with so many menial and unimportant things that you have no time to accept a real challenge when it comes along. This applies to play as well as work. A day merely survived is no cause for celebration. You are not here to fritter away your precious hours when you have the ability to accomplish so much by making a slight change in your routine. No more busy work. No more hiding from success. Leave time, leave space, to grow. Now. Now! Not tomorrow!

Rule Nine... for a Better Way to Live:

Live this day as if it will be your last. Remember that you will only find "tomorrow" on the calendars of fools. Forget yesterday's defeats and ignore the problems of tomorrow. This is it. Doomsday. All you have. Make it the best day of your year. The saddest words you can ever utter are, "If I had my life to live over again..."Take the baton, now. Run with it! This is your day!

Rule Ten... for a Better Way to Live:

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they were going to be dead at midnight. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.

Rule Eleven... for a Better Way to Live:

Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self- pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously.

Rule Twelve... for a Better Way to Live:

Never neglect the little things. Never skimp on that extra effort, that additional few minutes, that soft word of praise or thanks, that delivery of the very best that you can do. It does not matter what others think, it is of prime importance, however, what you think about you. You can never do your best, which should always be your trademark, if you are cutting corners and shirking responsibilities. You are special. Act it. Never neglect the little things.

Rule Thirteen... for a Better Way to Live:

Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self- starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.

Rule Fourteen... for a Better Way to Live:

You will achieve grand dream, a day at a time, so set goals for each day -- not long and difficult projects, but chores that will take you, step by step, toward your rainbow. Write them down, if you must, but limit your list so that you won't have to drag today's undone matters into tomorrow. Remember that you cannot build your pyramid in twenty-four hours. Be patient. Never allow your day to become so cluttered that you neglect your most important goal -- to do the best you can, enjoy this day, and rest satisfied with what you have accomplished.

Rule Fifteen... for a Better Way to Live:

Never allow anyone to rain on your parade and thus cast a pall of gloom and defeat on the entire day. Remember that no talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the fault-finding business. Nothing external can have any power over you unless you permit it. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealously, and envy. Guard your fragile life carefully. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces.

Rule Sixteen... for a Better Way to Live:

Search for the seed of good in every adversity. Master that principle and you will own a precious shield that will guard you well through all the darkest valley you must traverse. Stars may be seen from the bottom of a deep well, when they cannot be discerned from the mountaintop. So will you learn things in adversity that you would never have discovered without trouble. There is always a seed of good. Find it and prosper.

Rule Seventeen... for a Better Way to Live:

Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.


Posted by Priya Deelchand