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Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Life Lesson : Life Is Like A Cup of Coffee (Posted by Priya Deelchand)



A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... And then you began eyeing each other's cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups! The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

Author Unknown
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The Two Wolves Advice (Posted by Priya Taukoor)

Hello dear friends,

Here is an old man's advice:

One evening an old man told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said,

"My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all".

"One is Evil - It is anger, envy , jealousy , sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity , guilt, resentment, inferiority , lies, false pride, superiority , and ego".

"The other is Good - It is joy , peace, love, hope, serenity , humility , kindness, benevolence, empathy , generosity , truth, compassion and faith".

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather:

"Which wolf wins?

The old man simply replied, "The one you feed"!

Gud Day!
Priya :O)

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A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime (Posted by Priya Deelchand)




People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....
Author Unknown
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Blooms of Wisdom (Posted by Priya Taukoor)

My Dearest friends,

Here is a wonderful story that I would like to share with you today.

My mother loves flowers. As soon as warm weather comes around, you will find her planting, mulching, watering, weeding and fussing over everything from tulips to mums. For a number of years we lived next door to each other, and she spent as much time in my garden as she did her own. After the blooms became plentiful each summer, she would cut colorful bouquets to enjoy inside the house -- both hers and mine. I would often come home from work and find a beautiful arrangement of fresh flowers on my coffee table or bathroom vanity.

Shortly before Christmas one year, a local florist offered a bouquet-a-month special. It seemed to be a made-to-order gift for Mom, a great way to thank her for all of the flowers she had given me through the years. I couldn't wait until Christmas so I could give it to her!

After the holidays, in early January, I drove her to the florist to pick up her first month's bouquet. The small bunch of mixed blooms the florist handed her, while fresh and colorful, would hardly fill a small vase.
I was so embarrassed.

But, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and moms are good at soothing their children's feelings. After we returned home, she began to arrange the half dozen stems she had received.
"Mom, I'm sorry," I told her. "I can't believe how skimpy that bouquet is."
She looked at me and smiled. "It's okay," she said as she adjusted the flowers. "It allows me to better enjoy the beauty of each one."

I was struck by the insightfulness of her remark, because it illustrated how much she loves flowers, each and every flower. Yet it also related, so poignantly, to life in general and helped me to realize something bigger and more important -- that when we have too many good things we often fail to enjoy the beauty of each one.
Thanks, Mom, for helping me understand that less is sometimes more.

Have a happy day!!!
Priya

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Sunday, May 2, 2010

The Lentil Seed (Posted by Priya Deelchand)

 My boyhood dream was to acquire a big motorcycle
  and become a Knight of the open highway.

    But getting a license to drive a bike was a
  completely different story! I had to learn the
  rules of the road by heart and practice driving
  so I could pass safely between strategically placed
  pylons without touching them. I had to learn to
  maneuver through crowded city streets, never
  forgetting to signal my intentions to other
  drivers...

    It was a long and arduous process. But my
  driving instructor was philosophical about it.

    I remember one particularly difficult lesson.
  I had taken a fall and simply could not steer
  the bike around a curve between the obstacles.
  I got upset and started to doubt I could ever
  succeed. "It's no good, I'll never be pass the
  test!" I cried.

    "Calm down," my instructor said. "You may not
  know it, but you're making good progress every day."

    I'd been a teacher myself, so I knew about
  the platitudes teachers use to encourage their
  students. Which is why I didn't believe a word
  he said.

    "It'll take more than a cliché to convince me
  of that," I said.

    "Tonight when you go home," he replied, "put a
  lentil seed in some moist cotton. Then, every day,
  watch it grow for half an hour. Come back and tell
  me what you see."

    Naturally I didn't see anything. I played the
  game for three days, then gave up.

    But finally, two months after I started and with
  much effort and concentration, I obtained my license
  to drive a bike.

    On the day I took my exam my lentil seed sprouted.
  A tiny green shoot had pierced through the cotton.
  In a flash I understood the meaning of what my
  instructor had said.

    It's impossible to make a seed grow. It has to stay
  underground until the moment it is ready to break
  through into the open air. Even if the seed were
  in a hurry to grow, it could not have speeded up
  the process. Sometimes it takes time and quiet for
  things to sprout in us, and come to fruition.

    Although undetectable, new seeds are always present,
  making slow but steady progress inside us, preparing
  to burst forth and bloom at the right time.
  
    "Trees teach us patience - they do not break at the
  first sign of a storm."
  Carl Beaupré

  Author Unknown

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The Dancing Cow (Posted by Priya Deelchand)

    Michal and Kental started arguing as

  to which of them wrote the better music.
    
    "My music is better," Michal said.
  "My melodies bring tears to the eyes of
  all women."
    
    "No, my music is better," Kental
  disagreed. "My scores are more
  enchanting than anything! Your music
  couldn't move a cow, my poor Michal."
    
    "And what do you think? That your
  scores would make it dance?"
    
    The dispute was in full swing when a
  peasant passed by, leading his cow back
  home from the field. The two musicians
  saw an opportunity to put their
  theories to the test.
    
    "Hello there," they said. "Would you
  mind if we played something for your
  cow?"
    
    "Well, if it gives you pleasure, why
  not? She's seen a lot worse in her day,
  I can tell you."
    
    Michal warmed his hands, tuned his
  balalaika and played the most beautiful
  melody ever heard by a cow. But without
  result - the beast ruminated without
  moving an ear. Vexed, Michal passed the
  instrument to his compatriot, who
  played a lively score with the same
  result - no reaction from the cow.
    
    "It's a lost cause," Michal cried.
  "Your cow does not have a musical ear."
    
    "Well, I don't know about that," the
  peasant replied. "If you would lend me
  your instrument for a moment, I could
  play something for her."
    
    Intrigued, Michal and Kental handed
  over the balalaika. The peasant did his
  best to imitate the humming of the
  flies and the mooing of little cows.
  The cow lifted her ears, started
  whipping her tail from side to side,
  and walked closer to the peasant as if
  to hear the music better.
    
       
    If you have trouble communicating
  with people, it may be that, like
  Michal and Kental, you are not playing
  the music they are used to hearing.
    
    Don't try to flatter your listeners,
  but speak with words that they
  understand. Don't try to impose your
  meaning by using words and sentences
  that are too complex.


Author Unknown
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The Daffodil Principle (Posted by Priya Deelchand)


My dearest friends,

Hope you are doing great! 

I guess most of you have already read this wonderful story before but this is a story which is worth reading again and again as the lesson is priceless!


The Daffodil Principle 
~ by: Jaroldeen Asplund Edwards


Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come and see the daffodils before they are over.” I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. Going and coming took most of a day–and I honestly did not have a free day until the following week.

“I will come next Tuesday, ” I promised, a little reluctantly, on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and so I drove the length of Route 91, continued on I-215, and finally turned onto Route 18 and began to drive up the mountain highway. The tops of the mountains were sheathed in clouds, and I had gone only a few miles when the road was completely covered with a wet, gray blanket of fog. I slowed to a crawl, my heart pounding. The road becomes narrow and winding toward the top of the mountain. As I executed the hazardous turns at a snail’s pace, I was praying to reach the turnoff at Blue Jay that would signify I had arrived. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house and hugged and greeted my grandchildren I said, “Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in the clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these darling children that I want to see bad enough to drive another inch!”

My daughter smiled calmly,” We drive in this all the time, Mother.”
“Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears–and then I’m heading for home!” I assured her.
“I was hoping you’d take me over to the garage to pick up my car. The mechanic just called, and they’ve finished repairing the engine,” she answered.

“How far will we have to drive?” I asked cautiously.
“Just a few blocks,” Carolyn said cheerfully.

So we buckled up the children and went out to my car. “I’ll drive,” Carolyn offered. “I’m used to this.” We got into the car, and she began driving.

In a few minutes I was aware that we were back on the Rim-of-the-World Road heading over the top of the mountain. “Where are we going?” I exclaimed, distressed to be back on the mountain road in the fog. “This isn’t the way to the garage!”

“We’re going to my garage the long way,” Carolyn smiled, “by way of the daffodils.”
“Carolyn,” I said sternly, trying to sound as if I was still the mother and in charge of the situation, “please turn around. There is nothing in the world that I want to see enough to drive on this road in this weather.”
“It’s all right, Mother,” She replied with a knowing grin. “I know what I’m doing. I promise, you will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.”

And so my sweet, darling daughter who had never given me a minute of difficulty in her whole life was suddenly in charge — and she was kidnapping me! I couldn’t believe it. Like it or not, I was on the way to see some ridiculous daffodils — driving through the thick, gray silence of the mist-wrapped mountaintop at what I thought was risk to life and limb.

I muttered all the way. After about twenty minutes we turned onto a small gravel road that branched down into an oak-filled hollow on the side of the mountain. The Fog had lifted a little, but the sky was lowering, gray and heavy with clouds.

We parked in a small parking lot adjoining a little stone church. From our vantage point at the top of the mountain we could see beyond us, in the mist, the crests of the San Bernardino range like the dark, humped backs of a herd of elephants. Far below us the fog-shrouded valleys, hills, and flatlands stretched away to the desert.
On the far side of the church I saw a pine-needle-covered path, with towering evergreens and manzanita bushes and an inconspicuous, lettered sign “Daffodil Garden.”

We each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path as it wound through the trees. The mountain sloped away from the side of the path in irregular dips, folds, and valleys, like a deeply creased skirt.
Live oaks, mountain laurel, shrubs, and bushes clustered in the folds, and in the gray, drizzling air, the green foliage looked dark and monochromatic. I shivered.

Then we turned a corner of the path, and I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight, unexpectedly and completely splendid. It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it down over the mountain peak and slopes where it had run into every crevice and over every rise. Even in the mist-filled air, the mountainside was radiant, clothed in massive drifts and waterfalls of daffodils. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron, and butter yellow.

Each different-colored variety (I learned later that there were more than thirty-five varieties of daffodils in the vast display) was planted as a group so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue.

In the center of this incredible and dazzling display of gold, a great cascade of purple grape hyacinth flowed down like a waterfall of blossoms framed in its own rock-lined basin, weaving through the brilliant daffodils.

A charming path wound throughout the garden. There were several resting stations, paved with stone and furnished with Victorian wooden benches and great tubs of coral and carmine tulips. As though this were not magnificence enough, Mother Nature had to add her own grace note — above the daffodils, a bevy of western bluebirds flitted and darted, flashing their brilliance. These charming little birds are the color of sapphires with breasts of magenta red. As they dance in the air, their colors are truly like jewels above the blowing, glowing daffodils. The effect was spectacular.

It did not matter that the sun was not shining. The brilliance of the daffodils was like the glow of the brightest sunlit day. Words, wonderful as they are, simply cannot describe the incredible beauty of that flower-bedecked mountain top.

Five acres of flowers! (This too I discovered later when some of my questions were answered.) “But who has done this?” I asked Carolyn. I was overflowing with gratitude that she brought me — even against my will. This was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

“Who?” I asked again, almost speechless with wonder, “And how, and why, and when?”
“It’s just one woman,” Carolyn answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home.” Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house that looked small and modest in the midst of all that glory.

We walked up to the house, my mind buzzing with questions. On the patio we saw a poster. ” Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking” was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman, two hands, two feet, and very little brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”

There it was. The Daffodil Principle.
For me that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than thirty-five years before, had begun — one bulb at a time — to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountain top. One bulb at a time.

There was no other way to do it. One bulb at a time. No shortcuts — simply loving the slow process of planting. Loving the work as it unfolded.

Loving an achievement that grew so slowly and that bloomed for only three weeks of each year. Still, just planting one bulb at a time, year after year, had changed the world.

This unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. She had created something of ineffable magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.

The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principle of celebration: learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time — often just one baby-step at a time — learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time.

When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.

“Carolyn,” I said that morning on the top of the mountain as we left the haven of daffodils, our minds and hearts still bathed and bemused by the splendors we had seen, “it’s as though that remarkable woman has needle-pointed the earth! Decorated it. Just think of it, she planted every single bulb for more than thirty years. One bulb at a time! And that’s the only way this garden could be created. Every individual bulb had to be planted. There was no way of short-circuiting that process. Five acres of blooms. That magnificent cascade of hyacinth!
All, all, just one bulb at a time.”

The thought of it filled my mind. I was suddenly overwhelmed with the implications of what I had seen. “It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years. Just think what I might have been able to achieve!” My wise daughter put the car into gear and summed up the message of the day in her direct way. “Start tomorrow,” she said with the same knowing smile she had worn for most of the morning. Oh, profound wisdom!

It is pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson a celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, “How can I put this to use tomorrow?”

Feel free to spread this beautiful lesson among all those you love and we can each make a difference in the world.

Much Love,
Priya:))
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